Dealing with Wedding Stress

In theory weddings are supposed to be fun, but planning a wedding may be one of the most stressful things you'll ever have to do. Here are some tips that can help you deal with the inevitable stress of the happiest day of your life.

Manage Your Expectations

If you go in expecting your wedding to go smoothly with no problems, then it's only going to be all the more frustrating when everything falls apart. If you plan for catastrophe then at least you're prepared, and you might even be pleasantly surprised.


Be Patient with People

This is good advice just generally, but especially when planning a wedding. You'll be dealing with lots of different people, all of whom have their own demands and issues, and it can be easy to get frustrated. If someone's being unreasonable, rather than getting into an argument with them, just let them finish saying whatever they have to say. If, on reflection, their advice/demands were unreasonable, simply ignore them. Listen to what everyone has to say, but remember you don't have to go along with any of it.

Stay Organised

Make a plan and then try and stick to your plan. You won't always be able to say on top of things, but if you've managed your time and made lists of what you need to do by when, then you can maintain a certain amount of control.

Stick to Your Budget

You may find there's a gap between what you thought you could afford and what you can actually afford. Don't let yourself be pressured into going over your budget, there's no sense spending more than you can afford.

Be Prepared to Compromise

For whatever reason, you might not to be able to get everything you want. Everyone wants their dream wedding, but you also have to be practical. There's no need to compromise too much, or let people push you into a wedding you don't want, but you will have to make some sacrifices. Trying to get the impossible is obviously going to be stressful. 

Make Time for You

It's important to not get overwhelmed, so no matter how much you have to do you should still try and make time for walks/bowling/whatever you do to relax. You also want to make sure you're getting enough sleep, being tired all the time will only make things more difficult. 

Don't Forget Why You're Doing it All

It's important to remember that all the stress is for an ultimate goal. So long as you keep that in mind you should be able to stay sane through anything that comes along.

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The Wedding Book of Calm 

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The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams 

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