Bybkeating9 Brian Keating
The day a couple gets married is one of the most important and memorable events in their lives together. Weddings can obviously be stressful, requiring months of planning and preparation--from flowers and cake to seating arrangements and music. Our goal in this guide is to provide a helping hand.
We believe that no one should be stifled by tradition on their big day; however, we also understand the importance of etiquette when it comes to matters of ceremony. A wedding is a joyous celebration, and we hope that with our help, your trip together down the aisle will be as incredible as you always imagined.
As the adage goes, "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue," and the oft-forgotten final line, "...and a silver sixpence
Traditionally, the cost of paying for a wedding would fall to the bride's parents, this custom stretching back to the days when the bride's father would pay a dowry to a promising suitor. While this tradition invariably remains intact, it is more common today for both sets of parents to split the cost of the wedding, and in some cases the bride and groom will pay for the wedding themselves.
Planning a budget ahead of time is tantamount to ensuring that the wedding plans go seamlessly, and that any monetary issues are resolved early. Of course, it is important to stay within your means, despite the obvious excitement and the desire to spend a bit more than you normally would. Below we will provide a list of various wedding costs and who, traditionally, pays for them.
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The timing and the wording of wedding invitations
The wedding invitations are made out in the names of whomever is hosting the wedding; traditionally this is the bride's parents, for example:
The RSVP information is to be placed at the bottom left-hand corner of the invitation. The names of the guests should be handwritten and placed at the top left-hand corner of the invitation. If the wedding is formal or black tie, indicate this at the bottom right-hand corner of the invitation.
Originally, wedding gifts
It is common for engaged couples to register at different stores prior to getting married; this process makes it easier for their guests to purchase gifts that the couple want and need. It has also become customary for brides to include an extra slip of paper with the wedding invitation that informs the guests where the couple have registered.
Your gift list should not be too extravagant, and if there are expensive items on the list try and let it be known that guests have the option of grouping together in order to ease the cost of the gift. Shortly after the wedding, it is polite to send out handwritten thank you cards
|Popular Wedding Gifts|
Not the most exciting gift, but something that every married couple needs. Even if you have your own set of nice bed linen, which I'm sure you do, a fresh set of bed linen can be a great gift for a new home, especially if you have a guest room, or a new mattress.
Cutlery sets can be incredible expensive, especially antique sets, which are often inherited from parents or grandparents. Some cutlery sets come with full utensils, while others are block sets, which come equipped with an array of cutting knives.
This is a gift I would love to receive! Coffee makers are great presents because often people do not want to splurge and purchase a top of the line model for themselves. An expensive coffee maker is an example of a gift that several guests could buy together.
Editor's Pick: Bridesmaids' Gifts
One of the best aspects of choosing this bracelet for your bridesmaids is that they can all wear it on the day of your wedding, adding a special touch and an extra symbol of your love and friendship. These bracelets can be very colorful and you can choose to add an engraved pendant with the bridesmaids' first initial.
|Planning a wedding is no easy task, and of course a million questions will arise about the proper way to handle various situations. No bride or groom should have any added stress in the build-up to their wedding, so we are here to provide a little help with the nagging questions.|
These days, weddings very rarely have a strict dress code; however, you will still want to look your best. Wedding invitations will include the dress policy, for example if the ceremony is a black tie affair. The tradition of ladies wearing hats to weddings is still very much alive, and we will look at this and several other classic wedding staples.
Dressing for a wedding is fairly simple for a man; with a sharp suit and a smart pair of shoes, you will be universally accepted at almost any wedding. Often a man opts to complement his date, this can be achieved by selecting a tie
Ladies, as any wedding planner or any other person with good common sense will tell you, do not wear white to a wedding. A lovely morning dress will certainly suffice for a morning or early afternoon wedding and reception. For more formal weddings, which can often be indicated by how formal the invite is, a hat and a dress are required. Finally, for a black tie wedding, an evening gown will have you looking absolutely stunning as you dance through the night.
Editor's Pick: Formal Accessories
A beautiful, stylish alternative to a hat, a flat feather headband will allow you to seamlessly transition from a late afternoon wedding to an evening reception.
|Ladies Formal Wedding Hats |
|As with all other ceremonial staples of dress, there can be a fine line to walk when it comes to Lady's formal wedding hats|
Tradition dictates that ladies are not to remove their hats until after the mother of the bride does so--this rule correlates to an older custom in which women did not remove their formal hats until the men removed their jackets and retired for brandy and cigars.
Ladies formal wedding hats are also referred to as Ascots, named for the Ascot Racecourse
DVD's: Classic Wedding Moments
This classic film provides a poor example of proper wedding etiquette, but if you need to break-up a wedding, this is how to do it.
These two fellas know how to party, not that you should follow their example, but you'll certainly be a hit at any wedding you attend if you do.
|We've all been there before. One of your best mates is getting married, and someone has a bit too much to drink. Instantly, the dance floor turns into a battlefield, and the speeches, which were intended to extol the virtues of the happy couple, quickly devolve into the kind of pub banter that causes the bride's 80-year-old auntie to faint in her chair.|
It is no secret, weddings are highly emotional events. Then, when you mix in the booze, add a dash of pent-up loneliness, and a groomsman who's just broken up with his girlfriend of five years, you've got yourself a recipe for disaster. We're being a bit dramatic here, but it is important to remember that unless you're up on that altar, the day is not about you.
Here are a few simple responsibilities for wedding guests: