Sexy Valentine's Day Gifts Buying Guide
Exactly how a saint's day got so darn sexy is shrouded in mystery; the fact that you better buy your girlfriend a present is obvious. A quick pointer: the length of time you two have been a couple and the level of, ahem, intimacy you've explored will be a good guide as to how sexy your gift should be. If you've dated just a few weeks and/or haven't known each other in the biblical sense, skip the massage oil 
and Kama Sutra guide--tonight just may be the night, but your significant other won't be feeling sexy if he or she is also feeling pressured. If, on the other hand, you're reading this because your boyfriend or girlfriend hated your gift from last year and you know each other pretty well, some edible body lotion may be a welcome surprise.
Oh No
Speaking of the biblical sense, here are a few Thou Shalt Nots for Valentine's gifts:
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- Nothing tacky. Novelty ties or boxers for him, or ridiculous lingerie for her don't say I love you--they say, "I didn't know you well enough to get something you'd like." Unless you've known your significant other a long time and this is accompanied by a real, much better gift, don't do it.
- No pressure. Again, you might be tempted to give the bases-rounding a little nudge tonight, but never get pushy with your gift--it will backfire. Adversely, you'd be surprised how sexy some plain old thoughtfulness can be.
- No breaking the bank inappropriately. Dated a week? Don't scare them away with an overwhelming present like gold jewellery, which symbolizes an emotional attachment that hasn't had time to develop. If you want to show how close you feel, get a small gift that recalls something they told you about, such as a cd of a favourite band, a director's cut of a movie they've always wanted to see, etc. They'll be swooning at your attention to detail, not running from too much attention.
Oh Yes
Now that we've clarified what's not appropriate for certain relationships, here are a few gift ideas that are mind-blowingly inappropriate in general, but pretty hot for the two of you.
If it's all still kind of new
Your best bet is romantic-sexy. Remember, you can always get kinky down the road, but when it feels like the right time for you--not just because it's February 14th. So for now, keep this message in mind for her: I want and care about you. That means scented candles that are equally useful for her night table or her loo, an edible body product (it should be high end) she can use even outside of the bedroom, and even lingerie if she can sleep in it, like a silk teddy, chemise, or robe. Thinking sensual instead of raunchy and making sure a gift at least seems as much for her benefit as yours will make it a hit at this stage in a relationship. And same goes for if you're a girl shopping for your guy: giving him a simple but high-class gift lets him know how James Bond you think he is. Try silk boxers, a beautiful leather wallet, or a high quality accessory for something he already has and loves.
If you've gotten cosy
| Simple store-bought gifts will get a boost with novel presentation. You likely have a routine at this point, so use that to your advantage. Peruse book stores together? Take a trip down the erotica aisle together and buy them the one they like the best. Whether the late-night reading session is funny or seriously hot is all up to you. Have a key to their place? Try sneaking in before they get home from work and setting something special up: candles, dinner, and you in a suit and tie for your girl; candles, champagne, and you in nothing but the tie for your guy. For an even sexier surprise, try wearing new lingerie or a sexy costume as part of the gift, or let them find you on the bed you've made up in new silk sheets. |
If you're shacked up
A present you can share with your lover (and your bedroom) might be a great bet for some low-key Valentine's sexiness. Silk sheets, a new in-room sound system for sultry music, or even just his and her massage oil for the nightstand might bring new vitality to your private life. Especially if you've been together a while, making the bedroom your joint sanctuary--and playground--can both mix things up and bring you two closer together. But if you were seeking something a little more high energy, stash these in the bedside drawer: sexy board games, erotic dice, or furry handcuffs. Fun lighting concepts can also spice things up, like colored light bulbs, black lights, or glow in the dark toys. Transform your space for the night or the week, it's up to you.
P.S. I Love You
When Saint Valentine's Day became romantic as opposed to religious in high-mediaeval era of courtly love, couples celebrated the holiday by writing letters to each other. Why not save four dollars on a greeting card and create a Valentine for someone special? You can't really go wrong when speaking from the heart, and there's plenty of space to customize your note just for them; silly poetry for someone you laugh with a lot, a few heartfelt lines for a more serious companion, a detailed plan for exactly what you intend to do to a sexy bedfellow in a few hours or even minutes... be creative!
